Being a good and caring girlfriend is a nice way of letting your boyfriend know, how lucky he is to have you. You don’t have to go out of your way to be ‘good’, just to please your boyfriend. You already have it in you, that is why your boyfriend chose you in the first place. You just have to express what you genuinely feel about your boyfriend.
Following are a few tips on how to be a good girlfriend.
Give Him Space – Don’t Nag
Most girls are so overwhelmed with the feeling of having a boyfriend that they tend to cut themselves off from the rest of the world and expect their boyfriends to do the same. However, there is a difference in the way men and women look at a relationship. Women tend to devote all of their time to their new relationship, while men only think of it as an addition to their existing ones. However, that does not mean that your boyfriend does not want to spend time with you, he only needs his own space. Let your boyfriend spend time with his friends and family if he really wants to. Don’t nag all the time, because nagging is something men really hate. After, all what’s the use of having a boyfriend by your side all the time, when his mind is somewhere else?
Men really like women who are independent and capable of taking care of their lives. Calling your boyfriend at the slightest sign of trouble is definitely not a good idea. In the initial stages of a relationship, your boyfriend may like it when you turn to him for help, for every petty reason, however he may get irritated, if you make it a habit. Instead, show him that you can look after yourself and can handle problems without having to rely on him. It is best if you make yourself financially independent as well, not only will it help you to support yourself but will also make your boyfriend respect you.
Share His Interests
Sharing his interests and participating in his favorite activities is a nice way of showing your boyfriend, that you are ready to go that extra mile to make the relationship work. Obviously, nobody expects you to enjoy his activities as much as he does but your willingness to share his interest will make your boyfriend very happy. Sacrificing a romantic flick for a football match, once a while, can help you build a healthy relationship, without you knowing it.
Be honest to yourself and your boyfriend but do not expect it in return. You can be honest about your life, your past relationships, your ex-boyfriend, etc. but it is unfair to expect the same from him. He may have his own reasons for not divulging details of his past, so respect his feelings. However, you can always communicate your feelings and expectations. Being honest about your expectations from the relationship will help both of you to understand where your relationship stands.
Don’t Be Overtly Possessive
Although, over-possessiveness is usually associated with guys, some girls just don’t let go of their boyfriends and cling to them all the time. Beware girls, this attitude may make your guy claustrophobic and it won’t be too long before he sees red. Don’t confront him if some chick checks out your guy because it is not his fault. Instead, be happy that you are dating a guy, most girls would be desperate to be with. Similarly, don’t hack his passwords and read his mails or text messages. Such behavior may make you look like a desperate person who feels insecure about her relationship.
Don’t Be a Control Freak
Most girls try to get the control of the relationship by trying to change their boyfriends. Criticizing his looks, clothes, habits can really turn him off. Just as you wouldn’t want to change yourself for anyone, your boyfriend also loves himself the way he is. Always remember that you fell for him for what he is. If there is something unpleasant about him or his appearance, give him subtle hints, don’t ever yell at him, that’ll make the matter worse.
Men do not believe in expressing their feelings the way women do, hence be patient if your boyfriend seems in a sombre mood and refuses to talk to you. Do not frustrate him by asking too many questions. Just leave him alone, he’ll himself come back to you whenever he feels like talking about whatever was bothering him.
Don’t Ask Awkward Questions
Women have this habit of asking a wrong question at a wrong time. Nothing infuriates a man more than a ‘do you love me?’ amidst a romantic sequence. Use your common sense ladies, would he be with you, if he never loved you in the first place? Do not expect your boyfriend to profess his love for you, all the time. And for God’s sake, refrain from asking him ‘how much?’ if he ever bothers to answer your first question.
Being a good girlfriend is really not that difficult if you let your guy get some life and learn to get some yourself. You may feel like you are sacrificing some things in the process of becoming a good girlfriend but remember these small sacrifices go a long way in consolidating your relationship. Finally, follow the above ‘how to become a good girlfriend tips’ only if you think your boyfriend is worth it, else you know what to do!